Tonight my heart was happy. For the first time in over 7 months when my husband was prepping to go to Omaha, it was for something fun and something he loves to go to every summer— the College World Series. As some of you that know our family, Omaha has been a dreaded word in our house. October of 2014 my husband found out he had Hodgkin’s Lymphoma—a very curable cancer when detected early. As a 31 year old, healthy man and his 30 year old wife and 2 young children, you can only imagine what was going through our heads when we heard the word CANCER—we all hear the word and think the worst case scenario (especially me—the world’s biggest worry wart—besides my sister!). Never in our wildest dreams did we think we would have to get used to the ‘cancer lingo’. Long story short, Kip found an amazing doctor in Omaha at Methodist Hospital and started his chemo treatments. For 6 long months we traveled to Omaha where he received his treatment and as of May 2015, his cancer is GONE!!!
This isn’t about the cancer though and what Kip went through, it’s about LIFE, CIRCUMSTANCES, ATTITUDE and LOVE. Without those 4 words mentioned, it would have been a lot harder to get through the last few months. Kip taught me about all 4 of these words and made me a better and stronger person. He made me realize what is truly important in life. He made me realize that life circumstances are out of our control. He made me realize that a positive attitude and how we react is how we push through the hard times. This is KIP, my husband that was battling this disease that taught ME these things while he was the one dealing with everything. Could he have just thrown a pity party when he was diagnosed and fall into a hole? Yes—but he didn’t. He would always tell me that things could be so much worse and that maybe God was doing this to him so that nobody else that we loved had to go through it (like our boys). He did however question a lot at the beginning as to WHY? Why would God do this to him and why right now at the young age of 31? But Kip’s answer was always “God has a reason for everything.” It’s so true and this too has pushed me to have more faith and see that everything in life is out of our hands.
What I have learned most about life and happiness in the last 7 months is without a positive attitude and love and support, we won’t make it far in life. We are so very fortunate to have the friends and family that we do and going through this ‘bump in the road’ has made us realize who these people truly are and we thank them for being who they are—truly amazing!
What I want to get across most in this post is that we ALL struggle with different things in our lives, nobody has a picture perfect life (but if you do, would LOVE to meet you)—we all like to sometimes pretend, but it’s not realistic. Finding the positive within those negative circumstance is what is important. So make sure you reach out to people who are struggling. Find a support system—whether you’re struggling with family issues, weight issues, personal insecurities, financial issues or whatever you may be dealing with—find someone to grasp on to and ride the waves. I know I couldn’t ask for a better partner to ride our waves— having him has made me a better and stronger person!