We too often act as if relationships are something to be squeezed into our schedules. We talk about finding time for our children, our family and our friends or making time for people in our lives. I too fall to this many times in my life. There are too many days where I am concerned about MY agenda; cleaning, laundry, house projects and the list can sadly go on. I forget that life is about relationships. Relationships, not achievements or the acquisition of things, are what matters most in life. When our schedules become overloaded with meaningless activities, we start skimming relationally, cutting back on giving the time, energy, and attention that loving relationships require.
In the past 4 years since becoming a mom, I have realized that life just continues getting more hectic and it’s going to continue getting worse– between kids events, working and just LIFE! I’ve watched so many of my friends with older kids ‘go go go’ all the time! They go from one event to the next and just do it because that’s the ‘rat race’ of society. Busyness is an enemy of relationships! We become preoccupied with making a living, doing our work, paying bills, and accomplishing goals as if these tasks are the point of life–They are not!
Love leaves a legacy. How you treat other people, not wealth or accomplishments, is the most enduring impact you can leave on Earth. 1st place medals, record setting stats and materialistic belonging will mean nothing at the end of your life– it’s how you treated people and the relationships you built with the people around you.
Granted we all have a list of family members and friends that we want to have amazing relationships with, it’s tough to reach out to them all and make the time to spend with them. I know, even with my entire family in town, it’s tough to make time each week to spend time together. Everyone has different schedules that conflict with each others, so when we finally SET a date with each other and spend TIME together, it’s amazing!! Like this coming weekend for the 4th, we made it a point to all be together at the Lakes– I can’t wait!! The Griswald crew will all be together! 🙂
I need to take this next statement into consideration from Purpose Driven Life and focus on holding to it: “It’s not enough just to say relationship are important; we must prove it by investing time in them. Relationships take time and effort, and the best way to spell love is “T-I-M-E.” ”
So my biggest take from my reading today that again, I need to focus on, is to not wait until I’m on my deathbed to figure out that nothing matters more than loving relationships. We aren’t promised tomorrow. Circumstances change. People die. Children grow up. If you want to express love, we need to do it now!
The bible stresses it repeatedly. “Whenever we have the opportunity, we should do good to everyone. Use every chance you have for doing good. Whenever you possibly can, do good to those who need it. Never tell your neighbor to wait until tomorrow if you can help them now.”
I know this changed my outlook on my life and I hope it’s made you look at your different relationships and the daily agendas you set for yourself.
Are relationships your first priority?